Kissing Basics

There are so many different ways to kiss.  The two main basic ones are close-mouthed kissing and French kissing.  French kissing involves an open mouth and with tongue, while close-mouthed kissing is pretty self-explanatory.  We thought it would be easier for first-time kissers if they knew at least the kissing basics before they try to approach other kisses, such as French kissing.

Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath. If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don’t take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don’t want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.

Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don’t wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey. And don’t wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner’s and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience.

Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly to one side.  If you don’t, don’t worry about it.  Your partner will still tilt their head slightly so your lips meet on a slight angle or they will kiss you straight on.  If you can see which way your partner’s head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.

Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes.  Kissing with your eyes open, looking into one another’s eyes while you kiss, can be very erotic and some people find it quite enjoyable.  You may want to try kissing this way once you’re more comfortable kissing your partner.

Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner’s lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner’s. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.

Closed Lips - This is like the type of kiss you’d give your grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye kiss or a great first time kiss if you’re nervous.

Hands - There are many ways you can use your hands during a kiss.  The most popular way is to put one hand on your partner’s waist and the other one against the middle of their back.  Other ways to use your hands are to cup your partner’s face in your hands (very romantic!), put them around your partner’s neck, put them around their waist, hold your partner’s upper or lower arms gently, run your finger’s through their hair, or just hold their hands in yours.

And there you have it, the basics of kissing!  When you try to put them all together in your mind it makes it seem like kissing is very difficult.  But when you actually apply them in real life it’s quite easy.  Kissing is a natural response to show affection for someone and if done with someone you really care about it will feel totally natural.