Why do humans kiss?

Of course, the simplest answer is that humans kiss because it just feels good. But there are people for whom this explanation isn’t quite sufficient. They formally study the anatomy and evolutionary history of kissing and call themselves philematologists.

So far, these kiss scientists haven’t conclusively explained how human smooching originated, but they’ve come up with a few theories, and they’ve mapped out how our biology is affected by a passionate lip-lock.

A big question is whether kissing is learned or instinctual. Some say it is a learned behavior, dating back to the days of our early human ancestors. Back then, mothers may have chewed food and passed it from their mouths into those of their toothless infants. Even after babies cut their teeth, mothers would continue to press their lips against their toddlers’ cheeks to comfort them.

Supporting the idea that kissing is learned rather than instinctual is the fact that not all humans kiss. Certain tribes around the world just don’t make out, anthropologists say. While 90 percent of humans actually do kiss, 10 percent have no idea what they’re missing.

Others believe kissing is indeed an instinctive behavior, and cite animals’ kissing-like behaviors as proof. While most animals rub noses with each other as a gesture of affection, others like to pucker up just like humans. Bonobos, for example, make up tons of excuses to swap some spit. They do it to make up after fights, to comfort each other, to develop social bonds, and sometimes for no clear reason at all – just like us.

Today, the most widely accepted theory of kissing is that humans do it because it helps us sniff out a quality mate. When our faces are close together, our pheromones “talk” – exchanging biological information about whether or not two people will make strong offspring. Women, for example, subconsciously prefer the scent of men whose genes for certain immune system proteins are different from their own. This kind of match could yield offspring with stronger immune systems, and better chances for survival.

Still, most people are satisfied with the explanation that humans kiss because it feels good. Our lips and tongues are packed with nerve endings, which help intensify all those dizzying sensations of being in love when we press our mouths to someone else’s. Experiencing such feelings doesn’t usually make us think too hard about why we kiss – instead, it drives us to find ways to do it more often.

Types of Kisses

Chocolate Kiss

Best done with a Mars Bar because there is caramel in that too! Jus take a bite and French kiss as you would. Very silky smooth type of kiss, and can end up very messy.
Extremely pleasurable, and even more funny! Perfect for a first date just after a first kiss, or something to do that’s a little bit different. A must for anyone, best style of kissing ever!

Spiderman Kiss

It’s just like in the movie.  You kiss upside down, taking in both of your lower lips and do all those other kisses listed above.

Spitzer Kiss
 

Lap Kiss

While your partner is laying with his/her head in your lap, lean over and kiss her/him. Your bottom lip will be on your partner’s top lip, and  vise versa. You can even French kiss while in this position. This kiss is a playful kiss, and it can lead to much more.

Carmex Kiss

If either you or your partner are not carmex junkies, apply a little carmex to your lips and feel the gentle tingle on your lips.

Muzzle Kiss

When kissing the neck of your partner, at one point blow air out of your mouth while pressing the lips down, creating the sound of some sort of… flatulence.! It should be ever so unexpected and quite interesting indeed.

Trade-off Kiss

One of you gets a cinnamon candy and the other a mint. One takes the cinnamon and the other the mint. While French kissing, switch them from time to time. Great fun.

Tongue Ring Kiss

What you do is, if your partner has a tongue ring and the two of you are French kissing, mess with his/her tongue ring while kissing and it gives your partner chills and excitement/happiness because a lot of people with tongue rings love that. Or if the two of you have a tongue ring have a tongue ring WAR! What you do is keep his/her tongue away from your tongue ring, while you’re messing with their tongue ring. (NOTE: don’t Tangle tongue rings together because that will be a disaster!)

Breath Kiss

In a hot moment - creates major anticipation - barely touch lips with lips slightly parted… then breath your partner’s breath… moving heads slowly to experience different sensations…  lips touching on and off slightly… it is a very teasing sort of kiss and builds passion tremendously.

Chew Kiss

Tell your partner to place their tongue deeply into mouth deeply…  you VERY GENTLY “chew” on the back part of their tongue… do not suck.  This will create a sensation in other places that can be very exciting!

Touch Kiss

You do this after you and your partner have Frenched or really kissed alot.  What you do is just simply touch tongues - like the tip of your tongue.  You may want  to move it around but you don’t have to.  You don’t do it inside your mouth you do it out in the open.

Underwater Kiss

Moving Kiss

Make sure a bed or couch or chair is behind your partner and when French kissing gently push your partner onto the chair or whatever is behind them.  Very good for serious couples or just beginners.

Flavor Kissing

Chin Kiss

Suck Kissing

This can be a very seductive type of kiss. Instead of French Kissing with your mouth open, while your partner’s lips are parted suck on their top our bottom lip with your own, just for a second or two. Then go back to another type of kiss or try the other lip.

Nip Kissing

This type of kiss has to be done carefully, but when done correctly can create a wonderful effect on your partner. While suck kissing, gently bite their lip, but be VERY gentle so as not to hurt your partner. This kiss should only be done with someone that you’ve kissed a few times before, otherwise you may shock your partner.

Surprise Kissing

This type of kiss is done when your partner is lying down on a sofa or the ground, either asleep or just lying with their eyes closed. Quietly approach your partner and place a small, very gentle kiss on their lips. Intensify the kiss until your partner opens their eyes or awakens.

Vacuum Kissing

This is a playful kiss.  While in an open-mouthed kiss, suck in deeply so you’re sucking the air from your partner.

Cordial Kissing

Take a sip of your favorite drink, either alcohol or something sweet, and then when your lips meet pour the drink in your partner’s mouth.  Only take a very small sip.

Butterfly Kissing

Put your eye really close to your partner’s cheek and flutter your lashes upon their skin.  You can also do this on their lips.

Melt Kissing

Pass an ice cube back and forth in mouth while French kissing.

Glow Stick Frenzy

Pass the mini mouth glow stick back and forth (same thing as melt kissing).

Tongue Sucking

When you have the chance to get really deep into your partners mouth, suck on their tongue as far as you can.  Don’t  suck to hard, you don’t want to hurt your partner.  Otherwise it’s very pleasing!

Sigh Kiss

When you first start kissing your partner gently lick their lips with the tip of your tongue.  Then blow or sigh into  their lips, causing a tingling feeling that will intensify your kiss for sure.

Pop Kiss

Use pop-rocks, great fun. You’ve heard of fireworks, this is an explosion!

Tongue Tease

When you’re French kissing, if/when you pull back, and before your mouths meet again, you can flick your tongue up and down quickly against the other person who is doing the same.  It’s very teasing and fun to see how long it lasts.  Its hard to resist going strong after a while of flicking.

Kissing Basics

There are so many different ways to kiss.  The two main basic ones are close-mouthed kissing and French kissing.  French kissing involves an open mouth and with tongue, while close-mouthed kissing is pretty self-explanatory.  We thought it would be easier for first-time kissers if they knew at least the kissing basics before they try to approach other kisses, such as French kissing.

Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath. If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don’t take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don’t want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.

Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don’t wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey. And don’t wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner’s and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience.

Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly to one side.  If you don’t, don’t worry about it.  Your partner will still tilt their head slightly so your lips meet on a slight angle or they will kiss you straight on.  If you can see which way your partner’s head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.

Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes.  Kissing with your eyes open, looking into one another’s eyes while you kiss, can be very erotic and some people find it quite enjoyable.  You may want to try kissing this way once you’re more comfortable kissing your partner.

Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner’s lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner’s. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.

Closed Lips - This is like the type of kiss you’d give your grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye kiss or a great first time kiss if you’re nervous.

Hands - There are many ways you can use your hands during a kiss.  The most popular way is to put one hand on your partner’s waist and the other one against the middle of their back.  Other ways to use your hands are to cup your partner’s face in your hands (very romantic!), put them around your partner’s neck, put them around their waist, hold your partner’s upper or lower arms gently, run your finger’s through their hair, or just hold their hands in yours.

And there you have it, the basics of kissing!  When you try to put them all together in your mind it makes it seem like kissing is very difficult.  But when you actually apply them in real life it’s quite easy.  Kissing is a natural response to show affection for someone and if done with someone you really care about it will feel totally natural.

Threading

Basic facts

Called khite in Arabic and fatlah in Egyptian, it’s a less common method in the West for removing hair at the root, used primarily on facial hair. Rows of stray hairs are yanked out with twists of cotton thread.

Description:

The practitioner holds one end of the cotton thread in his or her teeth and the other in the left hand. The middle is looped through the index and middle fingers of the right hand. The practitioner then uses the loop to trap a series of unwanted hairs and pull them from the skin. There are also devices made that can hold the thread during the procedure.

Advantages:

Inexpensive, fast, neat, considered less painful than plucking for many. Good for eyebrows and facial hair. Like plucking, results can last up to two to four weeks.

Disadvantages:

Hard to find a professional practitioner outside large cities. Can be painful and cause itching afterwards. Side effects can include folliculitis, a bacterial infection in the hair follicles, skin reddening or puffiness, and changes in skin pigment.

Background facts

Marketing terms and tactics:

Historical overview:

The history of threading is not clear, with some claiming it began in Turkey. threading hair is so basic to women in the Middle East and India that it can be compared to girls learning to braid each other’s hair as children. Traditionally, threading is used on the entire face, including upper lip, chin, eyebrows, sideburns and cheeks. Here in Chicago, salons performing it can be found in the Indian and Muslim neighborhoods. Most American cosmetologists are not trained in the procedure.

Government regulation:

Many states require a cosmetologist or aesthetician’s license to do hair removal like threading.